New Year resolutions are
notoriously fragile and ephemeral. But victims of abuse cannot afford this
cavalier attitude: their mental - and too often physical - health depends on
strictly observing the following promises to themselves:
treat myself with dignity and demand respect from others. I will not allow
anyone to disrespect me.
set clear boundaries and make known to others what I regard as permissible and
acceptable behavior and what is out of bounds.
not tolerate abuse and aggression in any form or guise. I will seek to
terminate such misconduct instantly and unequivocally.
be assertive and unambiguous about my needs, wishes, and expectations from
others. I will not be arrogant - but I will be confident. I will not be selfish
and narcissistic - but I will love and care for myself.
get to know myself better.
treat others as I want them to treat me. I will try to lead by way of
am habitually disrespected, abused, or if my boundaries are ignored and
breached I will terminate the relationship with the abuser forthwith. Zero
tolerance and no second chance will be my maxims of self-preservation.